Changing, transforming.

Wow! It's fun when ideas have been in your head for a while, and then someone else articulates it perfectly, and gives you the missing pieces.

Relying on willpower for long term change, you see with people around, mainly leads to guilt feelings when it fails. (Though motivation\will-power can be an aiding factor - as explained nicely in the middle of the below talk.)

The key is tiny, tiny, and *consistent* changes.
The piece I  tend to forget - the *reward*: say `I'm awesome!' after you floss one tooth, or do one push up.

The piece I never thought of - the *trigger* - commit to doing a tiny thing, after something you are already consistently doing: this guy's example : 2 pushups after flushing the toilet.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AdKUJxjn-R8